I have read many 'how-to-be-the-best-Christian-young-women-and-men-books' in my lifetime. While the information was great, and well, very informative...I could see the author's hearts on the subject, but I couldn't see myself in their shoes. If finding out how to be the perfect Christian girl or guy is in a book...then tell me where to find it! I never found out how to become a 'perfect little Christian girl' in any book on modesty, boys, dating....and in one's about flirting etc. It was through the lives of countless women mentors in my life sharing about their trials with me, and walking alongside me. It was through my own life experiences, it was in talking to God daily...and it was in my many mistakes.
Your life should not be dictated by what is written in a Christian book just because it is written by a Christian....yes, that's right, I said NOT to live your life based on a 'how-to-live-life' Christian book. Christian 'help books' are great! They are there to guide us, to be informative, to spur us on towards spending time soaking up the Bible.
Now I bet you are wondering why Sarah went all scatter-brained from talking about flirting, to talking about not paying too much heed to what is written within self-help-Christian-life-guide-books!? I have a point....I promise. After thinking about my long preachy last blog entry, praying, and talking to my boyfriend Jared...I realized that I was doing and writing about exactly what I hated reading in all of those opinionated self help preachy books! I was preaching...now scripture has it's place and I am not throwing my last blog entry out at all. What I am saying is that I forgot momentarily, that I like you had struggles, read all of this stuff and had heard it all before growing up in a Christian Home.....but I didn't get it!
I didn't get why flirting was such a nasty pit and cycle to fall into from all of those books. I have Iearned just how damaging it was by living through it. I want you to know that flirting is like eating a big bowl of candy...it is seemingly sweet...then after a while it gets too sweet....yet you keep on eating anyway because even though it is empty and nothing nourishing whatsoever is to be found in it you continue to eat it on and on because it makes you feel good.....well, then you get sick my friend.
Back to self help books....they are great! I am not saying go burn all of your modesty/dating/friendship/tough-topics-to-deal-with-self-help books! I am merely saying that God is the one who can get you through understanding you and your life...the one He so desperately wants you to live!
Live and learn. Live and listen. Live and acquire. Live to glean from others and their life experiences. Live and love for Him! Live to love to seek Him, and not self help books!
Living, & Loving Seeking Him.
-Daughter of the King